Recently I had a friend ask me about a relationship with an organization I had done business with. In particular, he disclosed who in the organization he was working with. Here is the dilemma. I severed my relationship with this firm in large part due this individual and the way he did business and communicated.
A long time ago I took a course by Dale Carnegie in Human Relations and learned that if you can’t say anything good about someone you should not say anything. Yet I have a friend who has asked for my input. What would you do?
I’ve made my decision and know what I am doing but as I thought about this I was struck by the opposing thoughts that ran though my mind. I am still trying to befriend ambiguity.
I ended up sharing my experience with the firm and the individual with the caveat that it was my experience and they might have a different one. This now allows my friend and colleague to be perhaps more aware as he moves into his dealings.
Do you share your negative as well as positive experiences? If you don’t can you be counted on?